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Handsome man, choco-skinned, athletic-built, educated, open-minded, speaking 4 languages including French and Spanish, hardworking, independent with a great sense of responsibility who, among other things loves to cook too (smile). Looking for 1 woman. Yes, just ONE, I prefer to take care of one woman in 100 different ways than taking care of 100 women. 1 woman who is faithful, loving, caring, honest, optimistic, open minded, ambitious on the family level, ready for mutual moral support to get on well with and be happy for ever.

WHY IS THE RIGHT MATCH IMPORTANT FOR THE SUCCESSS OF A GOOD MARRIAGE?

The answer can be found in this wise saying I heard from a Muslim teacher in a program titled Before you say I do : «Better love the one you marry than marry the one you love »
When I heard it, I said « it’s crazy », I first thought that it comes from a real desire to get married out of pure interest, a great proof of selfishness. In fact, it can be a possibility, but he gave explanations to corroborate his saying. The clarifications hinged mainly on moral values. He added: « your first criterion of search must be moral values, objective moral standards ».
In fact, one can wonder why two people very infatuated with each other at the beginning of their marriage ended up being the worst and fierce enemies in a courtroom. The answer is simple. They were good lovers but bad matches.

It is a situation people often realise as they evolve or live together. Sometimes they ask themselves how comes it that they got married with the other, so complicated and intricate has the relationship become.
Good lovers who decide to marry appear as persons who believe that they can’t live without the other. Their feelings are very strong. Usually, they are ready to commit a blunder to see their desire fulfilled, mainly if there are some opponents to their project, some parents, for example. The emotional level is too important to allow some or enough room for rationality. They are somewhat blind referring to a certain and unavoidable reality.
In such a case, a conflict becomes inevitable. The degree of rationality that should exist at the beginning of the relationship and that was overshadowed or overwhelmed by strong feelings, will little by little takes its place as the couple is bound to experience factual situations or events. Yes, that degree of rationality is liable to be overwhelmed because at the inception of the relationship we can see some incompatibilities and pretend not to, or belittle their degree of importance.
Ambitions, aspirations, backgrounds, main principles that are anchored in the “partners” will step by step oppose them if they happen to be different. Having not seriously been considered at the beginning of the relationship, they will gradually emerge and destroy it by a continual and usually increasing apparition of frustrations, anger, sadness, fights, etc….

Another question: Then, do we have to choose between love and the success of a marriage?

Love being like a flower that needs to be taken care of, it just becomes wise to choose rightly the soil where we are going to plant it for its quiet, normal and optimal development. There are some soils that foretell the death of the flower even before its plantation. Some marriages, if some main facts are considered from the beginning, one can predict their failure. HENCE THE NEED TO APPROACH SINCERELY, HONESTLY AND THOROUGHLY SOME KEY QUESTIONS BY THE TWO WHO ARE CONCERNED. THE CONCLUSIONS, IF THERE HAPPEN TO BE A MARRIAGE, CAN CONTINUALLY BE AMENDED BY A FAIR COMMUNICATION IN THE HOUSEHOLD. That’s why I love communication a lot. WHERE TO GO, WHY AND HOW? What communication can solve fights can't.

Thus wisdom commends that he choice of the right match must be made seriously. If there is a good matching and just some affectionate feelings, it is already very promising. It secures the conditions, environment in which those feelings are bound to brood and become that wonderful rose which is love that will grow peacefully for ever.

Okay, I am neither a novelist nor a sociologist but I think that, if you read this writing of mine, you can easily guess some clues about my personality.
The right match being so important for the future of the marriage I am not skimping on the means to find mine. I have extended my area of search and join this web site. I think to have reached the right moment to share my life with someone I will love and cherish. My background is also marked by the fact that I have always been connected in a way or another to the western world, an instance: I specialized in American civilization years ago. I need a westerner. I have a lot more to say, you won’t be bored. Don’t hesitate to hit me up. Thanks!